A lot of healing is based on repetition. We often forget how many times we have reacted blindly in the past and how that accumulates in the mind to reinforce certain behavior patterns. To undo a lifetime of reactions is possible but it requires focus and intentional effort. When you genuinely make it a goal to transform, it is only a matter of time until you start seeing results. You want to apply effort into your attempts, but you never want to be rough or harsh with yourself. Letting go of unwanted habits and building new ones will ask you to dig deep into gentleness and patience. You are not going to get it right every time but eventually you will apply enough calm and compassionate effort that your new way of living will become second nature.