we change expression and style of communication especially when we are witnessed.

being deeply witnessed feels different than being shallowly witnessed. you will know when you are being deeply witnessed -- at first it can feel scary and unfamiliar... since you were not used to being given safe space to express how you really felt or be genuine, for perhaps so long, or your perspectives were held close in a way that kept you safe.

when we're ready to open up, it happens within our window of tolerance and safety -- this can happen through authentic relating practices like circling and it usually involves seeing someone for what they are sharing and what they are saying, in a deeper way, without reaction, judgement, or manipulation