Much of what happens to us in life is nameless because our vocabulary is too poor. Most stories get told out loud because the storyteller hopes that the telling of the story can transform a nameless event into a familiar or or intimate one. We tend to associate intimacy with closeness and closeness with a certain sum of shared experiences. Yet every day total strangers, who will never say a single word to one another, can share an intimacy. An intimacy contained in the exchange of a glance, a nod of the head, a smile, a shrug of a shoulder. A closeness which lasts for a second or for the duration of a song being sung and listened to together. An agreement about life. An agreement without clauses.
∆ John Berger, from ‘Some Notes About Song (for Yasmin Hamdan)’, Confabulations
Emotional intelligence is an intelligence that seeks to respond to the situation from a nonreactive space.
How do you think about the compatibility, or what is the synergy between a developed solitude and a functioning marriage?