‘My emotional life: dialectic between craving for privacy and need to submerge myself in a passionate relationship to another.’
— Susan Sontag
"As soon as we know that something is real, we can no longer be attached to it.
Attachment is no more nor less than an insufficiency in our sense of reality. We are attached to the possession of a thing because we think that if we cease to possess it, it will cease to exist."
–Simone Weil, Gravity & Grace
Everything is more beautiful because we're doomed. You will never be lovelier than you are now, and we will never be here again.
“What I find absolutely adorable is that, when I think of you, it’s the splendour of your being that lights up my heart. And I haven’t encountered, even once, the desire to make you mine in a way that would somehow shrink you into a scripted way of relating to me...I just want you to know that I love you, and the meaning of that is something I’m happy to discover with you.”
Love reawakens us to our true nature as inherently vulnerable beings, because love requires our transformation. Dreams function similarly—finally in a state of radically nonlinear antirational openness, our psyche is able to pour out and express itself to us. Love, dreams, fantasy, meditation and deep prayer all require a vulnerable, trancelike state that enables a break from every day reality and returns us to ourselves. I regard this process of “checking out” from reality as sacred, as it requires one to disregard the fear that accompanies vulnerability in service of a greater purpose, such as connection, truth, spirituality, or self-discovery. When I use my phone to check out, I go into a trancelike state, but unlike the sacred trances I described above, there is no greater purpose being served. I turn off my brain and open myself up, and corporations pour their content into me. They give me their dreams for free.