"The first question I ask myself when something doesn't seem to be beautiful is why do I think it's not beautiful. And very shortly you discover that there is no reason." --John Cage.
“Not everyone we connect with is going to be able to reciprocate our love. Sometimes we are ready and another person is not. Sometimes we choose someone and they cannot choose us back… And that is okay. You have to understand that that is okay…Someone’s inability to choose me is not a reflection of me, or my value, or my worth. However, it is also not something I need to grip at and dissect and turn into pain.
Sometimes life weathers people in different ways. We are all on this earth just trying to figure ourselves out. Just trying to mend the breaks in our souls, just trying to deal with what is heavy within us.
Sometimes we are ready and another person is not. Sometimes we try and another person does not. Sometimes we put ourselves into another human being and they cannot contain all that we are…Sometimes we choose to make things work and another person decides that they cannot choose that same reality and that is okay.
Because at the end of the day if someone does not meet you where you are, you cannot keep asking them to do so. If someone cannot reciprocate your love, if someone cannot give you what you truly deserve, you have to understand that aching them to do so before they are ready, is a form of self-destruction…You have to let this person grow on their own terms because you cannot love someone into their potential. You cannot love someone into being ready — they have to do that on their own.”
— Bianca Sparacino
do not be afraid of structuring things that feel organic in your life. structure does not have to stifle. organization makes for clear motives and less messy feelings.
(where does this fear come from?)
My thoughts and feelings matter. I am worthy of everything I need and want. I'm in my own world and my world is for me.