The moment of greatest vigilance for a man is when the woman reaches the final stages of the Five Signs and Ten Indications and starts pressing herself urgently against him in the final countdown to her orgasm. If a man is not careful, her growing agitation and pelvic thrusting will overstimulate the Turtle’s Head and cause him to ejaculate, taking the wind from his sails just as the woman is ready to race across the finish line. It is at this stage of intercourse that a man will most appreciate the virtues of deep penetration with ‘shallow thrusting’, which transfers the point of friction from the sensitive glans to the root of the penis, where it excites him least but stimulates her most. This style of thrusting, combined with deep breathing and anal sphincter locks, enables a man to meet and match indefinitely even the most urgent thrusts a woman makes on the verge of orgasm, without the risk of premature ejaculation.
One of the most imaginative and aesthetically pleasing aspects of Taoist bedroom arts is the poetic terminology used to denote various sexual organs and activities. Unlike Western sexual jargon, which is either coldly clinical (penis, vagina, clitoris, etc.) or lewdly colloquial (cock, cunt, fuck, etc.), Chinese erotic terms conjure up all sorts of romantic and guilt-free images in the minds of the participants, and this imagery greatly enhances the ambiance of sexual intercourse. It also enabled Chinese poets and writers to discuss sexual relations at great length without offending conservative readers or breaking established literary conventions. For example, take ‘clouds and rain’, which is the Chinese poetic term for sexual intercourse. ‘Clouds’ symbolizes the gathering storm of female essence, while ‘rain’ refers to the ejaculation of male semen. Hence, Chinese writers could use these terms to describe sexual intercourse in detail without offending anyone, with such creative metaphors as ‘the clouds gathered but the rain never came’, ‘after the rain fell, the clouds dispersed’, ‘light drizzles’ ‘sudden downpours’, and so forth.
It proves conclusively that men who learn to control their own sexual apparatus and instincts may become as potent and tireless lovers as any woman. It shows that men too may experience sequential ‘mini-orgasms’ without actual ejaculation, and it dispels the notion that birth control is primarily a female responsibility. It also clearly exposes the male instinct to ejaculate fast and frequently as a ‘little death’, a primordial suicidal impulse designed to sacrifice the individual for the higher goal of propagating the species.
- First and foremost, enlist your wife or lover as a partner in Tao. A man cannot master ejaculation control with strangers. He needs a woman who is fully familiar with him and with the principles and practices involved. An understanding and patient partner serves a novice male as the Plain Girl served the Yellow Emperor, guaranteeing complete cooperation and a carefree relationship. Once a man has mastered the methods, he may apply them with any partner.
- Start out by practicing ejaculation control during the daytime and promising yourself the treat of an ejaculation later on that day or night. This makes it a lot easier to ignore the advice of that bleating voice as ejaculation approaches, for you may look forward to an emission during a second round later.
- Once you have learned to suppress ejaculation during daytime intercourse, try skipping the bribe of a later ejaculation, and start experimenting objectively with your physiological and psychological responses to intercourse without ejaculation. Take note of your physical vitality and mental alertness after sex without emission, take pride in your newfound self-control, and take pleasure in your partner’s ever-growing satisfaction with your sexual skills.
- When you have finally mastered both the methods and the mentality of ejaculation control, make it a permanent habit by adopting it as a form of birth control.
- Taking into account all the relevant factors discussed above, such as age, season, physical condition, etc., follow your own instincts and personal experience in determining your own ideal ejaculation frequency. Every five or six years, decrease the frequency of emission according to the same factors, without decreasing your frequency of intercourse. This will automatically adjust your sexual habits to suit the requirements of advancing age and guarantees sufficient stores of essence and energy to replenish the depletions associated with aging.
After the body grows accustomed to the mechanics and biochemistry of the new routine, all uncomfortable side-effects disappear entirely. In the meantime, you can relieve that ‘full feeling’ with a few minutes of post-coital deep breathing and by gently massaging the region between anus and scrotum.
The Taoist way frees both man and woman from the clumsy and cumbersome technology of modern birth control. Women need no longer disrupt the delicate balance of their hormonal systems with the synthetic hormones and other dangerous chemicals contained in commercial birth control pills. Couples need no longer pause at the crucial moment of entry to wrestle with clumsy mechanical devices. Taoist birth control lets you have your cake and eat it twice: it permits you to enjoy as much sex as you want as often as you wish each and every day, while at the same time controlling conception and promoting health and longevity.
Wu Hsien considered ‘locking the gate’ to be the most effective of all methods for controlling ejaculation: ‘if you tighten the lower part of your bowels to shut off the flow of energy there, semen will stop moving naturally.’ The sort of contraction he suggests begins with the same basic anal lock used in breathing exercises, but it is further extended along the entire length of the perineum all the way to the urogenital tract. This method quite literally ‘blocks’ the outward flow of semen. Until you master this method, however, you may substitute digital pressure at the ‘Confluence of Yin’. As the Classic of Immortality states, ‘Take the index and middle fingers of the left hand and press them at the point midway between anus and scrotum. If this is done with sufficient pressure and combined with deep, slow breathing and gnashing of the teeth, then the semen will not be lost.’
opening the eyes wide and gnashing the teeth because these are tried-and-true Taoist methods for drawing vital-energy upwards to the head and away from the sexual organs, especially when combined with deep breathing. In addition to constricting the anal sphincter, he also suggests the method of pressing a vital point called ‘Confluence of Yin’, which is located midway between the anus and the scrotum. Pressure here tends to suppress ejaculation.