“Death is sexy in popular culture, but there’s nothing sexy about grief,” said Dr. Mary Ellen Macdonald, a medical anthropologist who is part of the team behind Grief Literacy. “It’s not curable. The only way to cure grief is to grieve. It’s this process that you have to go through – and often, you’re going to go through it alone.”
Part of our grief literacy must include pronouncing once and for all that whatever “normal” was is dead and buried. Only the most privileged and the least affected will insist on “going back to normal.” We must walk—emerge from the pandemic, not regress to “normal”—and talk--talk to our grief. We must speak it because as with any language, the more you use it the more fluent you become.
Angela Hennessey - "I have formed the habit of having death continually present, not nearly in my imagination, but in my MOUTH." - "and its everyday reality.... carrying death in his mouth, in his body, mind, and imagination. What does it mean then to take death into ones mouth, into the place of food, and liquids, that we consume to sustain life??" ...... "What does it mean to kiss someone you love with the knowledge of their death and yours, on your tongue"