The new challenges we face in the Age of Attention are, on both individual and collective levels, challenges of self-regulation. Having some limits is inevitable in human life. In fact, limits are necessary if we are to have any freedom at all.
I hope you all find yourselves sleeping with someone you love, maybe not all of the time, but a lot of the time. The touch of a foot in the night is sincere. I hope you like your work, I hope there’s mystery and poetry in your life — not even poems, but patterns. I hope you can see them. Often those patterns will wake you up, and you will know that you are alive, again and again.
“The current memoir craze has fostered the belief that confession is therapeutic, that therapy is redemptive and that redemption equals art, and it has encouraged the delusion that candor, daring and shamelessness are substitutes for craft, that the exposed life is the same thing as an examined one.”
Things do speak. Of course, we create things that speak. In the old days, when people smoked, and you could express things through smoking, I remember you'd be in a faculty meeting and you'd have your styrofoam cup you're clutching, and you'd be smoking and burning holes in the styrofoam cup, and no one yelped even though they were meant to. And you be doing this sort of thing where you put the cigarette out with a squash. When you put the cigarette out with the squash, the squash is still speaking there. It's indicating... Sherlock Holmes would pick up this cup and say, "This person didn't like Amendment 2." And in the old primitive so-called primitive times the world was full of life. Everything
If losing me
is the worst thing to happen,
your life is still a good life.
Emily Kendal Frey (2011)