We have to make a habit of being tourists in our relationships.
Go out or hang out in the living room with your significant other, friend or mom and just pretend you met this person for the first time.
Try and notice their facial muscles, hand gestures, tone of voice, way they laugh, what lights up their eyes and try to experience this for the first time. listen to them speak.
Try to get to know this person beyond what you already know. just be present. tend and care to this person and moment.
Don't let routine blind you.
Don’t let routine get in the way of beauty.
Don’t mistake living with having a life.
The other day, lying in bed, I felt my heart beating for the first time in a long while. I realized how little I live in my body, how much in my mind.
∆ Rodger Kamenetz, from Terra Infirma (University of Arkansas Press, 1985)
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.”
― Khalil Gibran, The Prophet