One of our favourite sex educators used to talk about how good humans are at finding short cuts at the expense of experiencing life more fully. We find the fastest way to walk to work, say, but miss the beauty of exploring the meandering path through the park.

Capitalism reinforces - and ultimately requires - us to find every possible efficiency at the expense of not only our enjoyment of life, but also the environment in which we live.

When it comes to sexuality, there are no short cuts. The only path to the actualization of our sexual selves is to take the long stroll through the park. There's no quick fix to centuries of oppression and collective sexual and social trauma. There's no gel or lotion or pill that will magically heal us.