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an effort to define a sense of self, of me.
(but maybe also to un-define?
to move beyond defining?)

some sort of answers to "who are you?".

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Virginia Woolf, from "The Waves"
Virginia Woolf, from "The Waves"

The truth, forever, for everybody, is that one is a stranger to oneself, and that one must deal with this stranger day in and day out—that one, in fact, is forced to create, as distinct from invent, oneself.

James Baldwin

When do you feel whole? When do you feel like the sum of parts?

a deep desire for the way i present myself, the way i navigate my relationships, the way i stay in the world to be congruent with my interiority

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Many young Americans think that to know themselves they need to find themselves, and they hold the naive belief that if they could just strip off everyday life like layers of an onion they would reach their true core, unadulterated by other people’s expectations and the distractions of a fastpaced world. They believe that they have a true core, an essence, and that it sits inside of them waiting to be discovered, and that once they find it they will know whether they ought to be a doctor or a lawyer or a philosophy professor. Sometimes these young people go to Europe and work their way through Mediterranean countries picking grapes, confident that their true self will emerge somewhere en route to Italy. But people who believe that the self is like an onion and their true self is its core have not spent much time in the kitchen. Peel an onion down to its core and all you will find is air. You are not an untouched core. You are and will become the sum of your commitments, your choices—moral, intellectual, and practical—they amount to much the same thing in the end. To find yourself, don’t dig under the surface of your life. Look at what you actually do, at what you come to care for, at what you fight to defend. Look at the small choices you make every day in the classroom, in the way that you read and interpret and argue, and the big choices will sort themselves out by themselves.

Tanya Luhrmann, Aims of education, 2003
Virginia Woolf
Virginia Woolf
Virginia Woolf
Virginia Woolf

Everybody in their lives is really waiting for people to ask them questions, so that they can be truthful about who they are and how they became what they are.

Marc Pachter
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