Here to validate myself and find a lil more trust in myself in the new year, learning to listen to my heart
"[addiction] originates in a human being’s desperate attempt to solve a problem: the problem of emotional pain, of overwhelming stress, of lost connection, of loss of control, of a deep discomfort with the self." - Gabor Maté
Gentle reminder to remember during this time to make an effort to move your emotions. We are feeling beings. When we repress, ignore, or avoid emotions they compound in our bodies and affect our total wellbeing. The body is a system. ⠀
When we collectively repress, ignore, or avoid emotions, it becomes a collective pain in our collective system. As individuals, we can focus on healing within ourselves and bringing that to our greater world. This is a time of unprecedented pain and fear, but also unprecedented opportunity. ⠀
Life is hard on the nervous system, revolution is hard on the nervous system, and there is endless work to be done. it needs to be approached in a sustainable way so we can stay with the work day after day after day. ⠀
This is not a forceful activity, it is simply being present with what comes to the surface and allowing it to exist. It is a practice in patience, in trust, in awareness, in becoming moving water. ⠀
Some things I've discovered so far...⠀
x. Meditation is absolutely magical but you kind of have to discover it for yourself ⠀
x. Dance, even if it’s just to dumb music at night in nature with your friend ⠀
x.Walks in the morning to ground into the wide web of things⠀
x. There’s lots of science behind writing, even if it’s just stream-of-consciousness, it helps slow down the brain and process cyclical thoughts or unidentified feelings ⠀
x. Saying it out loud. Say it in a safe space with humans you trust. You don’t have to reason with it, just acknowledge it’s existence. ⠀
If we live in fight-or-flight mode, we are living in fear. So, I cannot emphasize how important it is to regularly get into parasympathetic mode, or ‘rest and digest’. This is where the body does its healing and finds equilibrium. It is from here we tune into ourselves and our connection to the world around us, it is from here we have the energy and capacity to continue to push forward and break down barriers.⠀
It is powerful to know that even just one intentional inhale and exhale is a meditation. ⠀
Something very helpful:
Go to sleep and wake up at the same time with the birds - you will reap all of the days golden grains.
Eat more green - you will have legs and a resistant heart, like the beings of forest.
Look at the sky as often as possible and your thoughts will become light and clear.
Be quiet a lot - speak little - and silence will come in your heart, and your spirit will be calm and full of peace.
Recent studies and discoveries increasingly point out that we heal primarily in and through the body, not just through the rational brain. We can all create more room, and more opportunities for growth, in our nervous systems. But we do this primarily through what our bodies experience and do—not through what we think or realize or cognitively figure out.
—Resmaa Menakem, My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies
there is romance in taking the time.
taking the time to walk
taking the time to read
taking the time to cook an elaborated meal
taking the time to listen to a piece of music
taking the time to colour in a circle
taking the time to notice
taking the time to wonder
taking the time to listen
taking the time to think
taking the time to fall in love
“Every day of your lives is practice in becoming the person you want to be. No instantaneous miracle is suddenly going to occur and make you brave and courageous and true.” - Audre Lorde
“Seeking joy has been an active practice, because joy doesn’t come easily for me. I’m prone to long periods of fog, as you’ve called it, and if I don’t seek (and make) light, I would stay in it even longer, would possibly never emerge. I swear by keeping routines, which includes taking care of my body—eating enough, sleeping and waking at regular times, getting fresh air, that sort of thing. I also put limits on things that smother my joy; for me, this is primarily the internet, which provides endless messaging that I am not doing enough, am not good enough, and just generally steals my attention and energy, which I would prefer to use on things which nourish me. I believe in the power of creating small joys, instead of waiting for a big one to arrive miraculously in your life. I made a list of these joys so I can refer to it when I’m deeper in the fog, like a menu to order from. 100 joys. They’re simple, but effective—things like bubble baths, calling a friend, dancing, buying flowers, eating dark chocolate, a cup of tea. Some months, I have to challenge myself to meet a quota, when I’m feeling very down. It helps. Little step after little step. Little light after little light.”
— Leila Chatti, from an interview with Sneha Subramanian Kanta in Parentheses Journal, Issue 10