I have been reading about how thinking of stress as a resource can help you recognize your strengths. It’s a way of your body trying to help you prepare for obstacles. This idea goes against the belief that stress is always bad and must be reduced. This rethinking is not a cure, it does not erase suffering or make problems disappear. In a way it reframes stress as your body helping you face the challenges in front of you. Next time you are feeling stressed tell yourself “this is good, this is my body trying to help me perform when I’m anxious.” Think about how your stress can actually be helpful.
“If you want to teach people a new way of thinking, don't bother trying to teach them. Instead, give them a tool, the use of which will lead to new ways of thinking.”
— R. Buckminster Fuller
Really I think the only way to do anything is to throw stuff at the wall and see what sticks. And then be ruthlessly analytical in figuring out why the sticky things did indeed stick. Rinse and repeat.
One might often rush to fill any gap, moment of pause in conversation with meaning
But more often than not, the greatest luxury of all is taking that moment to pause and simply let time pass, together.