— The characteristics of friendship translated in cultural production : honesty, realness, vulnerability, openness
— Viscous identity, high permeability to ideas shared in the collective space, willingness to transform and experiment
— Light-hearted emotionality, rawness and naivety
— Lore-ification of the collective, identity-play through common cultural references
— Aesthetics as jokes rather than statements and ideologies
— Cultural production designed to expand into memes — impactful visuals, embracing ugliness and naivety in execution
— Disinterest in theoretical classifications of culture (i.e. 'post-modernism', etc) — the present is unsteady and shouldn't be taken too seriously
— A simple desire to laugh in a time full of drama and existential crisis for the human species
What is public is irreducibly performative. Authentic friendship revolves around what is not public, what cannot be performed, what is hidden and what is, so far as anything human can be, un-calculated.
That which cannot be public is the currency of friendship, the guarantor of intimacy. Shared secrets, mutually-disclosed but socially-unacceptable sentiments, are the arch-reality against the surreality of performative acquaintanceship.
We live in an economy of celebrity and publicity, commercial pressures focus technological innovation on convincing humans to be more public. Thus, private friendship, real friendship, born of intimacy that cannot be performed, friendship that entails taboos and violates cultural norms, is pushed further into the margins of social experience.
That what is positive can generally be public means that as often as not, negativity is the axis around the authentic-dependent friendship forms.
The essence of human communication experience remains privately-shared, socially-untenable asides about how much we detest one another.
Friendship is the place in which a great majority of us have our first glimpse of redemptive love and caring community. Learning to love in friendships empowers us in ways that enables us to bring this love to other interactions with family or with romantic bonds. (...) We place them in a secondary position, especially in relation to romantic bonds. This devaluation of our friendships creates an emptiness we may not see when we are devoting all our attention to finding someone to love romantically or giving all our attention to a chosen loved one.
— bell hooks, all about love