See your future self as a different person from who you are today.
— Imagine who your future self is.
— Hold your current identity more “loosely,” knowing that who you are right now is temporary, not permanent.
— Have the courage to admit what you truly want (tell people about your future self).
— Use your new narrative, focused on your goals, to drive your daily decisions and behavior.
— Measure your progress (deliberate practice).
— Invest in your future self (escalation of commitment)
—Never be defined by who you are right now.
In the 80s, Rei Kawakubo of Comme des Garçons undertook an interesting but ultimately ill-fated retail experiment. In her stores, she removed the mirrors from dressing rooms. The intention was to focus attention away from appearance, and instead onto the sensation of how the clothing felt, the affect it had on your body.
The brain does not conceive of the fear of death, but it does conceive of the fear of losing identity, which is its equivalent.