“You ask me what I mean by "devotion." Devotion means I give you both my body and soul; it means I place both in your hands, and so in turn I desire your body and soul. And you ask me, "Why you?
Why not someone else?" Because I can never give myself body and soul so completely to anyone else, and I can never desire someone else, body and soul, so completely.”

• Qui Miaojin - last words from montmartre - pg13

Metaphor for marriage in the 21st century: would you rather get a pre-made meal from Blue Apron or some comparable service and have to deconstruct the whole thing because it has a bunch of ingredients you hate and are allergic to—OR, would you rather go through your cupboards at home and imagine a meal from scratch based on the ingredients you have or that you could get right away?