“Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself - what you’re wearing, who you’re around, what you’re doing. Recreate and repeat.” ― Warsan Shire
Being in bed, having a shower, having a meal on my couch with a tray, cleaning, cooking while listening to something, reading or using my laptop on the couch, watching TV in my bird chair (often with a friend who is on the couch), using my big computer at my desk.
Meeting someone for coffee or meal, using my laptop at the library or hotel, walking around: to get somewhere, for exercise (often around a loop), or aimlessly
If I consider my life honestly, I see that it is governed by a certain very small number of patterns of events which I take part in over and over again.
Being in bed, having a shower, having breakfast in the kitchen, sitting in my study writing, walking in the garden, cooking and eating our common lunch at my office with my friends, going to the movies, taking my family to eat at a restaurant, having a drink at a friend’s house, driving on the freeway, going to bed again. There are a few more.
There are surprisingly few of these patterns of events in any one person’s way of life, perhaps no more than a dozen. Look at your own life and you will find the same. It is shocking at first, to see that there are so few patterns of events open to me.
Not that I want more of them. But when I see how very few of them there are, I begin to understand what huge effect these few patterns have on my life, on my capacity to live. If these few patterns are good for me, I can life well. If they are bad for me, I can’t.
⚘ Christopher Alexander, The Timeless Way of Building, pp. 67-68.